beloved life practices 16: sit with the darkness


REFLECTION: ‘The practice of Sit With the Darkness is about giving ourselves to the darknesses that come our way. Making a decision to live with them, to live in them, to live out from them. This is how healing, hope and light may eventually find their way back to us. There is no short cut to light. And there is no easy way to discover the wisdom of sitting with darkness. We have to enter it, we have to experience it for ourselves. But we can prepare ourselves for it. And we can be with others who are experiencing darkness…’


beloved life: sit with the darkness
beloved life: sit with the darkness


PRACTICE: ‘Begin by allowing your own losses, griefs and darknesses to find a space. They and you have to be given room to find each other. Find your own way to do this, perhaps in an act of creativity or in a conversation. Allow the feelings, images or actions to take shape in a way that is not damaging to the people around you, but very real about what you are feeling. The practice then takes on a new and generous quality by finding ways to be with the people around you in their darknesses. Look for the right time to be a quiet presence with someone in their suffering…’

©Ian Adams 2013 ‘Running Over Rocks: spiritual practices to transform tough times’ (Canterbury Press)

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